Which means, you’ve probably been in an argument a few times.
Arguing is something that we’ve been taught to do since we were really little.
Everyone was programmed by their parents’ conversations, siblings, teachers…
We were programmed to respond in certain ways depending on our environment growing up.
We soaked in everything around us as children, without discernment (which was of no fault to us as we were probably not taught discernment), without knowing that what we’re soaking in and absorbing is shaping us, likely for the rest of our lives.
The way you argue is likely the way you saw those around you arguing when you were growing up.
Is arguing a bad thing?
No, because nothing is good or bad unless you give it that meaning.
The real question, in my opinion, is “Is arguing serving me?”
The title of this article (completely sarcastic BTW) is to play on the fact that many people think that spiritual people shouldn’t, or don’t, argue.
That’s completely false.
Spiritual people aren’t perfect and we all have moments where we fall back into the program of the matrix.
The goal is to care so much about how you feel, your state of being, your emotional frequency output…
that you don’t want to do anything that brings you in a state where you’re not feeling in alignment and in a space of unconditional love for yourself, and for those around you.
That’s what it means to be dedicated on your spiritual path.
Nonetheless, spiritual people aren’t perfect – as you’re probably already aware of!
And while you’re an amazing, beautiful, powerful soul who’s reading this message..
You’re not perfect either!
And that’s totally okay, because like I said in the beginning of this article…
You’re human.
You came here to be human, which means to be perfectly imperfect.
Love on the parts of yourself that feel they need to enter an argument from a place that is not of unconditional love.
If you need to get your point across, do it with love, in a way that doesn’t breed fear, hate, or hard feelings.
A reminder that arguing only breeds that in which we do not want.
Anna Pepe is Editor and Creator of Manifest Easy.
After learning how to properly manifest the life of her dreams, and communicate with the Universe in a productive way, Anna now has a passion for helping others to do the same.
Anna is a channel, and often channels lessons from her guides regarding love, romantic and platonic relationships, abundance, money, and more.
Not only does she have a passion for helping others manifest the life they desire, she also has a passion for helping people recognize that they have incredible power within them, that often lies dormant.
She loves to share other people’s stories, as well as her own stories and lessons from her guides, to help as many people as possible and share as many perspectives as possible with her brand.
If you have a story you’d love to share, please go to the Contact Us page, or email Anna at anna@manifesteasy.com
Do This Simple Technique To Release Negative Thoughts and Feelings
I’m gonna be realllll bold here…
So you think you love yourself, huh?
I mean really. Do you think you love yourself???
I thought I loved myself.
I thought I had done the work.
I thought I had done enough meditating,
I thought I had done enough soul-searching,
I thought I had done enough shadow work and integration….
I realized….
Self love is not a college degree.
It is not something you earn or tap into once you’ve “done enough of the work”.
It is a moment-by-moment, unconditional love.
It is constantly choosing love, over that little voice (or big loud scary voice) that tells you that you aren’t enough.
It’s choosing love over the voice that tells you you’re not good enough.
It’s choosing love over the voice that tells you that you should feel ashamed, or that you should feel guilty for the things you’ve done in the past.
It’s choosing love when you eff up.
It’s choosing love when you feel afraid, or when you feel worried about the future.
You see…
Self love isn’t a degree.
Self love isn’t something you earn,
It isn’t something that just stays with you, because you’ve felt it or tapped into it a few times, or even many times.
You have to constantly choose love.
Unconditional love for yourself, and really for everyone around you, as we are all really one.
When you constantly choose love, it becomes second nature to keep choosing it.
But yet, it is a choice.
Not a badge.
Not a degree.
Not a permanent state.
We can make a habit out of choosing love.
We can also make a habit out of choosing fear, worry, anxiety, self-judgement, judgement upon others…
We can make it a point to choose love. To consciously choose love.
And even when you’ve made a habit out of choosing love…
You still may experience times when you might choose fear, or worry, or judgement…
And that’s okay.
You don’t need to run away from those things.
You can acknowledge them, and move past them.
Call them out for what they really are – They are the absence of love.
These negative feelings and emotions, they don’t belong to you. They don’t belong to your true self.
If you feel yourself getting caught up in these types of feelings and emotions, here’s a simple tip/exercise that you can apply at any time, to relieve unpleasant feelings, thoughts and emotions!
Take a deep breath. Breathe in for 6 counts, hold for 3 counts, then breathe out for 9 counts.
Breathe in again, using the same breathing pattern – but this time, picture the negative or unpleasant thoughts and emotions jumping into an elevator (during the breath in and hold at the top), an elevator that’s appeared inside your brain.
As you release your breath, picture the elevator going down, stopping at your heart center as you fully release.
If you’re not driving or doing something else while doing this, place your hands over your heart. Feel your heart center expand. Feel the massive electromagnetic energy coming from your heart, into your hands, back into your heart, and spreading all around you into your auric field.
When we drop into our heart center, we can really FEEL whether or not what we’re thinking, feeling, etc. is coming from our Higher Selves. We automatically tap into the frequency of love.
And you have the ability to do this at any time, anywhere.
This is just one example, one reminder of how powerful we truly are – as spiritual beings, having a human experience.
And feel free to do this exercise often, as many times as you feel the need to.
Because remember, self love – love in general… does not come in the form of a badge. It does not come in a degree.
Choose love, in this and every moment… because this moment, now, is all that really exists.
In this video Anna Pepe shares how to use this powerful technique which she channeled from her spirit guides, to lock in your intention for your day, to help you stay in alignment with your goal, to help you stay focused, and to ultimately help you create a state of being from which you manifest easily and quickly.
Use this technique every morning to set your intention and set energetic filters within your energy centers and your physical body.
In her first interview with Manifest Easy, the very wise and beautiful soul that is Divine Derricka shares with us a great perspective on judgement, and gives powerful examples of using positive self-talk to form a strong relationship with yourself based in unconditional love.
Divine Derricka’s Age: 23
Her Current location: California, United States
About Divine Derricka’s Profession: Derricka is an Empowerment leader and intuitive energy healer and channel. She works with people to help them reframe their mindsets + alchemize their inner worlds, remember their divinity, and their power to heal themselves + transform their lives. She is also an Artist and uses her art to activate, and uplift people’s energies.
What makes you feel most connected to your femininity?
“Dressing up, and doing my makeup really helps me tap into that feminine side.”
What outfit do you feel most sexy in?
“A bralette, some flowing goddess pants, a kimono, my snake necklace, snake sandals, my lion rings, and gold bracelet, and my chandelier earrings. Also can’t forget a full face of makeup!”
Has anyone ever judged you for showing your more feminine, emotional side? How did you deal with that?
“Yes, I’ve had a couple of people. At first it hurt my feelings, but after doing some healing I realized it was because I myself used to judge this part of myself. Once I healed that relationship, I stopped attracting people that judged me for that.”
At what point in your life did you start to really step into your femininity and the divinity that comes with that?
“Actually at this point right now. I feel more connected to this aspect of myself than I ever have before.”
What’s your favorite self-care ritual?
“Definitely giving love to my physical body. Whether that’s through self pleasure, rubbing myself down with oils, doing my nails and hair, and taking reiki infused baths.”
“Ahh so many things! Being a woman is amazing. But I’d say how intuitive we are, and that we are powerfully connected to the realms of the unseen, and magick.”
What inspires your creativity most?
“Being outside in nature always sparks my creative fire.”
How do you express your creative side?
“Through doing my makeup and taking pictures, writing poetry, drawing, and cooking.”
Women are intuitive beings by nature. What’s one instance where you’ve felt called to really tap into your intuition and listen to that voice inside of you?
“When I was ending a karmic relationship. I had to really ask myself from a deeper place, “is this healthy for me?” And it led me to letting go of something that wasn’t serving me anymore.”
Women have an intrinsic trait where we tend to avoid confrontation, and handle issues passively. Because of this, we can often manipulate the situation and get our way without fighting. What’s one time that you’ve seen this trait show through you?
“It was with my sister. We’d sometimes bump heads about how [to do] certain things. But instead of me fighting about it, I’d suggest going to get some food and that I’d pay for gas. I knew what to say, and how she’d react to avoid it turning into a bigger problem.”
When did you really start to feel confident in yourself? Was there a specific moment or event that caused you to embrace yourself with love and step into confidence?
“It was another romantic situation. I had fallen for someone that didn’t feel the same way, and he mentioned some traits about myself that I needed to look at.
That moment sparked me to look deeper at not only my shadow, but my light. I started to embrace what was within, what I had to offer to the world.
It made me realize I don’t have to chase anyone or anything, but simply be as I am. And that She is enough. Once I did that I started to feel better about myself, and it was genuine confidence that emerged.”
Was there a time you ever doubted yourself? And how did you overcome your doubt?
“Oh yes, many times actually. One was when I started to really express my gifts to the world. I doubted if I was all that I felt I was. I doubted if I’d actually make a difference in people’s lives.
But the way I overcame it was when I went into the part of myself that was doubtful, I spoke to her and we had a honest conversation. I reminded her that we have what it takes, and that we were born with these specific gifts for a reason.
It took time but the doubt started to ease up. But in my moments of doubt, prayer also is my go to.”
As women, we are too often told we need to change the way we look, and the media and beauty industries can pick on our insecurities. How do you like to honor your body and remind yourself how beautiful and perfect you are?
“I write love letters to myself. I also sit in front of the mirror naked and speak out loud how beautiful I am. I speak to every part that I ever felt self conscious about, and I shower it with love. I also thank my body for all the work it does. Gratitude has shifted my self worth in major ways.”
What advice would you give to a young girl who isn’t confident in her body and femininity yet?
“Don’t ever compare yourself to another for you are absolutely perfect as you are. No one else in the world could do what you are meant to, or be you. Your uniqueness is what makes you special.
The Divine made you exactly the way you were meant to be for a reason. Within you is an infinite source of beauty, wisdom, love power, and potential. You carry the codes of the women that have gone before you, and they are guiding you every step of the way.
You are never alone in what you feel. You are valid, you are worthy of all of your hearts dreams and desires. You don’t ever have to chase love, or validation because your worth was already set before you came into physical form. You could never be without love because it’s what you are.
Honor what it means to be a woman, and celebrate yourself throughout all moments because you deserve to be celebrated. Remember you are loved unconditionally forever, and always.”
Women are naturally highly sensitive beings, and we deeply feel our emotions. How do you honor your emotions and give yourself space to feel?
“I make sure that I always have a private space I can go to and be alone with the divine, and myself. In that space I’ll write about my feelings, I’ll cry and release, I’ll scream, dance, I do whatever is needed to let the emotions move through me. I also remind myself that it’s okay to feel what I feel.”
As women, and divine feminine beings, we’re given the precious ability to create life. In our society, we’re told we need to be mothers and raise a family. While having the incredible ability to create life and give birth, not every woman decides to become a mom, and that’s okay. What are your thoughts on this topic? How do you feel about being able to create the most precious thing on earth – life itself?
“I feel every woman regardless if they choose to be a mother or not, have the divine mother codes within them. It’s not just birthing a physical child, but maybe a creative project, or something you’re manifesting.
We have this powerful ability to breathe life into anything around us. That could be our love life, ourselves, our friendships, our career. All of that is tied to our feminine ability to create life, and nurture life.
I do feel that we should be more respectful to women who consciously choose not to be mothers. It doesn’t make them any less of a woman.
But for me, I do know I want to and will be a mother to physical children. I think it’s so beautiful that women have this ability to bring spirit into human form. It’s powerful to witness what women go through, and their ability to literally carry life within them.
How they were designed with everything they needed to make this happen. When I think about what I’m capable of as a woman in birthing life, it’s a power I can’t fully describe into words. It’s an ancient remembrance for sure.”
The divine feminine energy within you is inherently strongly connected to nature – Mother Earth. What is your favorite way to spend time in nature and honor Mother Earth?
“I love just being present in nature. Putting my feet on the grass, feeling the pulse of Mother Earth beneath my feet, listening to the birds, feeling the wind, the sun. Experiencing her with all my senses. I love to speak with the spirits of the earth, sing to them, dance with them, and just sit with them having conversations. I also love to leave offerings for Mother Earth. I’ll leave her flowers, or I’ll send her reiki.”
As women, we are the embodiment of Divine Feminine energy, but we also have Divine Masculine energy within us. Do you often feel like you have more feminine energy than masculine, or vice versa? How does the energy that you think is most dominant within you often express itself through you?
“I used to definitely be more in masculine side, but now I feel my feminine is much more dominant. It shows up in my ability to communicate easily with The Divine, and be a channel and vessels for it to express itself through me. Also my ability to be unconditionally loving to everyone.”
