You’ve been dating him for a while now. You’ve grown as a couple and you’ve even talked about taking the next step – eventually getting married.
But… you and him argue. Some days more than others. The days you argue, you can’t help but think to yourself “is he really the person I’m supposed to be with?” …. “is this right?”
Here’s the tea, sis.
It doesn’t matter.
Yup, I’ve said it! It really, truly, does not matter if he is the right one for you in that moment.
Why would I say such a thing?
Why would I not want you to be with who you’re really meant to be with?
Let’s break it down.
You have two options really:
Or you leave.
Are there any other options?
So what sense does it make to sit there worrying about “is he the one?”
Does he have to be “the one” for you to enjoy the time you spend with him and all the memories you have made and will continue to make?
Does he have to be “the one” for you to be happy in this moment?
Now c’mon girl let’s get real.
You can choose to be happy right now.
Regardless of any arguements,
Regardless of any past grudges you’re holding against him,
Regardless if you’re unsure if he’s right for you.
You can be happy right now.
And really… if you choose anything less than being happy and choosing to be happy in this moment,
You’re doing yourself, and the rest of the world, a disservice.
It is your responsibility to find the things you love about the people who are around you, and to focus on those things.
It is NOT your responsibility to try to filter what other’s say to make you feel comfortable.
It is NOT your responsibility to figure out “is he the one?”.
It is NOT your responsibility to have it all figured out in this moment.
When we cling to certainty, we are massively shortcutting ourselves and our abilities to manifest new things into our life.
How can you have certainty and manifest something you’ve never had before?
You MUST jump into the unknown *insert Elsa singing here* to manifest what you want that you haven’t experienced yet.
Otherwise, you’re just telling the universe over and over,
“I’m scared of things that I do not know. I’m scared of uncertainty. I don’t trust you and I don’t trust myself.”
How can you expect the universe to give you all of the magnificent things that you’ve already asked for, if you’re literally telling it “Yeah I want that…. but I don’t trust that you’ll take care of me when I jump into the unknown.”
It doesn’t work like that.
You can’t have both.
So which is more important to you?
Living the colorful, vibrant, advednturous life of your dreams…
Or staying with what is already familiar to you?
Do This Simple Technique To Release Negative Thoughts and Feelings
Do This Simple Technique To Release Negative Thoughts and Feelings
I’m gonna be realllll bold here…
So you think you love yourself, huh?
I mean really. Do you think you love yourself???
I thought I loved myself.
I thought I had done the work.
I thought I had done enough meditating,
I thought I had done enough soul-searching,
I thought I had done enough shadow work and integration….
Self love is not a college degree.
It is not something you earn or tap into once you’ve “done enough of the work”.
It is a moment-by-moment, unconditional love.
It is constantly choosing love, over that little voice (or big loud scary voice) that tells you that you aren’t enough.
It’s choosing love over the voice that tells you you’re not good enough.
It’s choosing love over the voice that tells you that you should feel ashamed, or that you should feel guilty for the things you’ve done in the past.
It’s choosing love when you eff up.
It’s choosing love when you feel afraid, or when you feel worried about the future.
Self love isn’t a degree.
Self love isn’t something you earn,
It isn’t something that just stays with you, because you’ve felt it or tapped into it a few times, or even many times.
You have to constantly choose love.
Unconditional love for yourself, and really for everyone around you, as we are all really one.
When you constantly choose love, it becomes second nature to keep choosing it.
But yet, it is a choice.
Not a badge.
Not a degree.
Not a permanent state.
We can make a habit out of choosing love.
We can also make a habit out of choosing fear, worry, anxiety, self-judgement, judgement upon others…
We can make it a point to choose love. To consciously choose love.
And even when you’ve made a habit out of choosing love…
You still may experience times when you might choose fear, or worry, or judgement…
And that’s okay.
You don’t need to run away from those things.
You can acknowledge them, and move past them.
Call them out for what they really are – They are the absence of love.
These negative feelings and emotions, they don’t belong to you. They don’t belong to your true self.
If you feel yourself getting caught up in these types of feelings and emotions, here’s a simple tip/exercise that you can apply at any time, to relieve unpleasant feelings, thoughts and emotions!
- Take a deep breath. Breathe in for 6 counts, hold for 3 counts, then breathe out for 9 counts.
- Breathe in again, using the same breathing pattern – but this time, picture the negative or unpleasant thoughts and emotions jumping into an elevator (during the breath in and hold at the top), an elevator that’s appeared inside your brain.
- As you release your breath, picture the elevator going down, stopping at your heart center as you fully release.
- If you’re not driving or doing something else while doing this, place your hands over your heart. Feel your heart center expand. Feel the massive electromagnetic energy coming from your heart, into your hands, back into your heart, and spreading all around you into your auric field.
When we drop into our heart center, we can really FEEL whether or not what we’re thinking, feeling, etc. is coming from our Higher Selves. We automatically tap into the frequency of love.
And you have the ability to do this at any time, anywhere.
This is just one example, one reminder of how powerful we truly are – as spiritual beings, having a human experience.
And feel free to do this exercise often, as many times as you feel the need to.
Because remember, self love – love in general… does not come in the form of a badge. It does not come in a degree.
Choose love, in this and every moment… because this moment, now, is all that really exists.
I have so much love for all of you reading.
Arguing? Spiritual People Don’t Do That…
If you’re reading this, you’re probably human…
Which means, you’ve probably been in an argument a few times.
Arguing is something that we’ve been taught to do since we were really little.
Everyone was programmed by their parents’ conversations, siblings, teachers…
We were programmed to respond in certain ways depending on our environment growing up.
We soaked in everything around us as children, without discernment (which was of no fault to us as we were probably not taught discernment), without knowing that what we’re soaking in and absorbing is shaping us, likely for the rest of our lives.
The way you argue is likely the way you saw those around you arguing when you were growing up.
Is arguing a bad thing?
No, because nothing is good or bad unless you give it that meaning.
The real question, in my opinion, is “Is arguing serving me?”
The title of this article (completely sarcastic BTW) is to play on the fact that many people think that spiritual people shouldn’t, or don’t, argue.
That’s completely false.
Spiritual people aren’t perfect and we all have moments where we fall back into the program of the matrix.
The goal is to care so much about how you feel, your state of being, your emotional frequency output…
that you don’t want to do anything that brings you in a state where you’re not feeling in alignment and in a space of unconditional love for yourself, and for those around you.
That’s what it means to be dedicated on your spiritual path.
Nonetheless, spiritual people aren’t perfect – as you’re probably already aware of!
And while you’re an amazing, beautiful, powerful soul who’s reading this message..
You’re not perfect either!
And that’s totally okay, because like I said in the beginning of this article…
You came here to be human, which means to be perfectly imperfect.
Love on the parts of yourself that feel they need to enter an argument from a place that is not of unconditional love.
If you need to get your point across, do it with love, in a way that doesn’t breed fear, hate, or hard feelings.
A reminder that arguing only breeds that in which we do not want.
Stay in Alignment Throughout Your Day By Using This Powerful Technique to Lock in Your Intention
In this video Anna Pepe shares how to use this powerful technique which she channeled from her spirit guides, to lock in your intention for your day, to help you stay in alignment with your goal, to help you stay focused, and to ultimately help you create a state of being from which you manifest easily and quickly.
Use this technique every morning to set your intention and set energetic filters within your energy centers and your physical body.